How long and dating after death
One mourner said her journey through the stages of mourning was like being in a cocoon.
At first she felt numb and not perceptively alive, yet gradually she emerged as a butterfly ready again to fly.
Because people do not know, and because talking about death makes people nervous and awkward, the shiva house often turns into a festive gathering filled with nervous chatter, instead of the proper house of mourning.
The laws of mourning have the purpose of focusing a person on their own spirituality.
Judaism provides a beautiful, structured approach to mourning that involves three stages.
We de-emphasize our own physicality by not pampering our bodies, so we remember that what we are missing at this time is not the physical person who is gone, but the essence of who that person was, which of course is their soul.Again, shiva is a deeply personal time of reflection, coming to terms with loss and grief, and contemplating the inner spiritual dimensions of life.The workplace draws our thoughts and feelings outward, thus if at all possible, should be avoided.Chairs – The people sitting shiva are required to sit low as a sign of mourning.Funeral homes often provide chairs with shortened legs for this purpose.